You feel proud of yourself
You’re proud of yourself and for everything you’ve been through because every turning point in life leads you to another. Every change leads to a new destiny. When one door closes, another door opens. No matter what happened in the past, you are who you are because of everything that’s happened and you’re proud of who you’ve become.
You feel happy with where you are and where you’re headed
You know that you’ve done well in life when you’re happy with where you are and where you’re headed. You might not be where you dream of ultimately achieving but you’re happy that you’re on the right path. You know who you are and you’re doing things that align with your values. You don’t do things that go against who you are at the core. You are in touch with your soul, with yourself, and you know that no matter what happens, you will be okay. Life will lead you down the right path.
You are better than you were yesterday, last week, and last year
You might not be the best you could be yet but at least if you’re better than you were yesterday and the day before, then you’ve done well in life. Sometimes we do stupid things. Sometimes we do things we should not have done. But as long as we realize this and aim to become a better person each day — mentally, emotionally, physically, and intellectually, then you’re further along in life than most people.
Your relationship with your family has improved
Not everyone grow up having the perfect relationship with their family. Most of the time we don’t. Personality clashes are common occurrences. As we get older, we realize that no matter how bad our parents might seem at that time, they’re our parents. We learn to understand their circumstances and upbringing that shaped them up to be who they are. We are now mature and wise enough to learn to manage our emotions and handle conflicts with the only people in our life we can never completely detach from — our parents.
As we get older, we realize that there’s not much time left for us to be with them. So instead of feeling bad about the hurtful past, we re-create the bond with our parents and make sure they know how thankful we are for the love and care they’ve ever given us.
You’re passionate about your job, your hobbies, and your life
After all, what is there to enjoy if we don’t enjoy life? You know you’ve done well in life when you love your job, have hobbies that you enjoy doing, and just love waking up everyday. You feel excited about what the day will bring and whom you will meet.
You live in the present
Instead of focusing on the past and wish things were different or worry too much about the future, you focus on the present. You realize that everything is fleeting and that life is uncertain. You know you’ve done well when you focus on making the moment in front of you the best moment it could be. You are mindful and know that our wandering thoughts can create illusional emotions that shouldn’t be there to start with. The only way for us to truly enjoy life is to live in the present.
You know who your true friends are
One of the most beautiful things in life is true friendship. They are the people who accept you for who you are and no matter what happens they’re there by your side. You know you’ve done well in life when you know you have a group of people you can turn to to celebrate your success and to be your shoulder to cry on. They are the people you can trust wholeheartedly. Having these people in life means that you’re a true friend to them yourself. Being a true friend is a reciprocal process. You just don’t form a strong friendship if you only take and take, you have to give and you have to take. If you have a group of people who are there by your side for years to come, you know you’ve done well in life.
You realize that you’ve become more non-judgmental and open-minded over the years
One of the things that can show our maturity is how we care for others. Over the past years, has your horizon been broadened? Have you become more open-minded, non-judgmental, and more understanding of the world and of people around you?
No matter who you are as a person, no matter what you do, if you have no sympathy for others and no understanding of the world, then you might be missing out on something good in life. Life is more than just about work and play. Life is about experiencing and understanding other human beings and other culture. Life is about experiencing love, joy, happiness, tears, and sadness. Life is about escaping from suffering as much as it is about pleasure.
You know how to manage your emotional well-being as well as your mental well-being
As good as it sounds to be smart and successful, it is never a true success if your home is a mess, your family life is in chaos, and your emotional health is nothing to be proud of. Your emotional intelligence is even more important than your intellectual intelligence. It is never good to be an aggressive, abusive boss who is successful and can close any deals. It is never nice to be a strong breadwinner of the family when you abuse your wife and scream at her under pressure and stress.
You know you’ve done well in life when you have your emotional well-being under control and when you no longer feel like you’re falling apart inside because you’re breaking down. Stress is sometimes inevitable in life. However, learning to manage it and getting better at this is crucial and essential to a happy and healthy living.
You do things that are good for yourself, body, and mind
Some people work too hard that they forget to take care of the most important things in their life — their health, body, and mind. Without good health, life is not enjoyable. What’s the point of being wealthy if you don’t have time to enjoy life with the people you love? You know you’ve done well in life if you make your health and well-being your priority. You make sure you eat well, exercise, and take some time off to relax and recharge. You meditate. You read. You do things that vitalize your soul. At the end of the day, no matter how big your home is, your body is your true home.
You don’t regret anything you’ve done because life is about moving forward, not backward
There are always things we did in the past that we are not proud of. If we could turn back time, we might actually not start doing it. However, there is no point thinking about it this way. If you’re smart enough, you learn from your past and have become a stronger and better person because of it. There’s no point in looking back and regretting, because everything happens for a reason and it leads you to where you are today.
You know you’ve done well in life if all you look forward to is moving forward. You focus on making today and tomorrow better. That’s the only outlook on life that one should have.
You feel thankful and are excited about life and the future
Your life can be truly amazing and wonderful, however, if you don’t appreciate what you have, then you’d never feel truly happy. You know you’ve done well in life if you feel thankful for being alive and appreciate what you have, rather than looking at what you don’t have. Life is a gift in itself. The key to this is to look at it with gratitude. After all, it is what it is. Everything and every person come into your life to teach you something. See it as a passing experience and learn from it. Be thankful for whatever has happened because without it you would not have grown and be as well-equipped as you are today.
* The texts are extracts – summaries essence of my favorite books and articles
by Davor Gasparac