This is the hardest part of being in any relationship! If you let go and trust, you risk heartache- we know this, yet people around the world do it again and again even after being hurt numerous times- why? Because in the chance the opposite happens- that you’re not hurt, but instead accepted, loved, and validated- you’re able to have a really fulfilling relationship. And isn’t that what we’re all here looking for? The trouble is, you can never really have it without taking that risk.
The good news is that there are ways to reduce your chances of getting hurt along the way:
- Make sure he/she’s worthy of your trust- don’t trust blindly. Has he been pretty consistant with following up on promises (even calling you when he says he will), or are you finding that he’s already disappointed you a couple of times? If he has shown you he’s worthy of your trust, it seems fair to start trusting.
- Trust builds gradually. When a guy proves that he is trustable with little things, you can gradually work your way to trusting him with bigger things, and if he passes that test, bring on the next bigger thing.
- Leave the past behind you. The main reason most ppl are scared to trust is because they have been hurt in the past. Don’t assume your new guy is the same and give him his fair shot. If you find that you’re still carrying those wounds from your previous relationship, maybe it would be helpful to talk to a professional.
Protect your heart! It’s good to have a little bit of a guard up and trust only when you feel the person is trustworthy. But if you are able to trust the right person, you could be in for a great relationship!