Does this relationship bring out the best in both of you?
This is the part where you get to assess and evaluate yourself and your partner, and your relationship HONESTLY. While you try to evaluate whether or not it is THE REAL THING, here are some things to consider:
Are you happy? That would be a yes or no.
When you wake up, are you glad to be alive?
Are you grateful for the blessings that you receive daily, like being alive and loved?
Are you loved and treated as a person of value?
Does HIS/HER MOTHER know about you?
Is your life on a positive track?
Do you have hope for the future?
Do you have dreams and work toward them all the time?
Is your life better because your boy/girlfriend is in it? Really?
Are you in this relationship alone?
Having someone on your arm makes life less complicated. You get a built in escort and date. Most people seem to think and feel better as part of a pair. There is a sense of social relief as well meaning family and friends stop trying to fix you up.
Are you thinking and planning as a pair?
Do you automatically consider both of your plans for the weekend, or merely anticipate maybe meeting up sometime?
Have you postponed or given up your hopes and dreams for the relationship or have you restructured your dreams together?
The answers, and the courage to face the facts is the key to making the determination.
Give and take, compromise and cooperation are characteristics of love relationships. Working toward common goals, sharing dreams and values define the dynamics of a good love relationship.
People know each other on a separate and private level than the world at large. Infatuation can even be thought of as love with only 2 dimensions. With love, that third dimension is REALITY. So, it is actually your ability to tell what is real in a relationship, versus what is imagined.
You love being part of a couple, but is this the person you want to be in a couple with? Look at the reality of who this person is, not who she/he wants to be.
Do you always interact over dinner and drinks?
Meet under different circumstances?
Become part of each other’s lives?
If that is not happening, why not?
Are you spending and enjoying time together?
What happens when you’re apart? Are you sure?